In our Love-ships we all need a shoulder to cry on and an ear burn out. Our girlfriends are heavily relied on to be our advocates, confidantes and personal “Amen” section in times of crisis. This kinship of support is vital; but girlfriend can I tell you something?
Keep those cackling hens out of your relationship!
Yeah I said it! Now exhale—–> ahhh < ----- and unravel your face. Many of you allow your “girlfriends” to have more say-so in your life than you’re man. There is definitely a special place reserved for them but not in marriages or relationships. The key word is “in”. You and Big Daddy are (((IN))) a relationship. Your girlfriends play the sideline position. What does that mean? They are SUPPORT ONLY. God made clear his intentions in the book of Genesis. First he created the Earth, then Adam, then Adams’ help meet; Eve. If God felt Eve needed an ally, he would have also created Jennifer to hang around and suck the life out of Adam and Eve’s relationship. Your girlfriends wish you well however they may be a little extra protective of your heart because it’s been broken a few times. Your job is to back them up a little so that Big Daddy knows without a doubt he is….Umm….Big.
I know it’s hard to let go of those Friday nights, Saturday afternoon soirees, day to day gossip and popping up at each other’s homes; you made a pact with your girls that you would never put them on the back burner, right? Well, you are in a relationship now therefore the dynamic of how your girlfriends fit into your life is changed. This is not a sad moment so pick your face up. Just think, at least 50% of our girlfriend time is spent talking about;
- Finding a good man
- Being cheated on by a man
- Leaving a no-good man
- Just met a man
- Somebody else’s man
- Man, man, man….
Now you get to spend your 50% talking about how Big Daddy keeps that smile on your face. Isn’t that beautiful?
Ladies, what role do your girlfriends play in your relationship?
Fella’s, do you feel like a third party in your own relationship?
Let your heart speak...I’m listening ….Holla at ya Gyrl!
Tags: best friends, girlfriends, marriage, relationship dynamic, Relationships
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Oh those wonderful girlfriends (a.k.a cockblockers) I think that sometimes they try to poison the water in relationships because their personal lives are not up to par and they just can’t get past it. I also think sisters can be lumped into this issue occassionally, although its a little harder to recognize because family is different for the most part. We need more women like you to impart wisdom regarding this matter to other women out there. To be fair the same rules can be levied against us men, whereas we aren’t swayed in the same fashion by our boys, bad association can spoil useful habits, so says the word. And it is so very useful to be on the good foot with your women.
Hi
I agree with the support but sometimes if you do tell them too much, the end up hating your boyfriend or wanting to be with him lol
Then when you reconcile after breaking up with him, they give you the constant side eye and roll their eyes everytime you bring him up
if he’s super good…they get tired of you “bragging”
so yeah..if you can try and keep relationship stuff between the two of you
if you break up..then you can diss him all you want
true2me you hit all the fine points of what can happen when balance is sought with our gyrlfriends. But like Urban Punk said some women see your happiness and it reflects the opposite of their own lives. The great thing is that only a few have those issue, not all of US!
See sometimes its our fault because we tell our gyrls too much. We want them to be mad at Big Daddy with us then calm down when we forgive him. It doesn’t work because your gyrlfriends are vested in YOU! So we have to be the conductor of keeping both sides in Harmony
Latoya
(wordsRmylife)
You went to church on this one! Wow!
I think you are right about telling your friends to much. It opens a door for way to much confusion in the relationship and to much spectating from the sidelines.
half the time the friends that they are consulting with are single! So my question is, how can you take advice from someone who isn’t even qualified to speak on relationship issues?
Its like asking your dentist for financial tips.. and your banker about oral hygiene.
Girl yeah! back they asses up before you be out there lookin for another man. I know been there, yeah popin up at ur house when u aint there, an all that type of stuff. The majority of the time they hatin, want u just like them, lonely. Oooh! an dont have a good man, that they cant find anything bad to say about him huh! U better stop look an listen to Toya!!!!!