Women are intrinsic nurturers, advisers, instructors, and teachers. We are so patient and loving. Even when it’s necessary to impart “tough love” we do so with a loving hand. We are commissioned to be so many things that our role becomes one big blur in the handling of our children and our Men. I often hear men complain they are treated like children at home. Now let me clarify before I continue: Some of you (Men) are treated like children because you act like a child: This topic is not for you.
I want my Gyrlfriends with real Men to take a breath (Inhale…now exhale),then read what I have to say with an open heart and an honest mind.
Did you know your man needs you to be his best Cheerleader? That means when he comes home from work, greet him with excitement, kiss him with passion, and listen. That is his instant band-aid for the wounds he collected through out the day. See, I don’t know how to walk in a Mans’ shoes because I’m not one; but I do know that life beats harder on Men than Women. Therefore when he comes home feeling defeated (and he will), don’t go into “fix it” mode by lecturing or giving instruction. Your expertise is not needed. Plus, he can get an opinion from anyone; but what he does need?! he can ONLY get from YOU. YOU are the reason he battles the world, roars the loudest and grudgingly tucks his tail sometimes when he really wants to tell his boss to go to Hell. YOU are his motivation so be available! Be available to listen, nurture, massage his shoulders, rub his head, lay with him etc. More importantly take- his- side. Make it clear you are here for him. Remember, this is his moment so don’t one up him with a comparison of how bad your day was.
I know I’m always pointing the finger at us and its likely your wondering is all that really necessary? Nope, it isn’t. It’s only necessary if you’re with a man you truly love and plan on spending your life with.
Will you be his Best Cheerleader? Speak to me….I’m listening….Holla at ya Gyrl !
Tags: cheerleader, children, Love, marriage, Relationships, support
I TRULY DO UNDERSTAND THAT, AND I AM MY MAN’S BEST CHEERLEADER, MADE M.V.P THIS YEAR, I FEEL I AM ALWAYS NURTURING, SUPPORTING, THAT DRIVER, THAT PUSHER, THAT PRAYERFUL AND MY MAN TRULY APPRECIATES THIS AND TELLS ME CONSTANTLY HOW HE APPRECIATES THIS. BUT HOUSTON WE HAVE A PROBLEM……..AS I TELL MY MAN I NEED THE SAME IN RETURN, HE IS CARING, LOVING AND SUPPORTIVE IN THINGS HE BELIEVE(KEY WORD,,,HE BELIEVES) I SHOULD PURSUE OR THINGS THAT ARE GOOD FOR ME, BUT THE THINGS I AM PASSIONATE ABOUT, I TRULY BELIEVE IN, HE WANTS TO ALWAYS POINT AT REALIITY. I CALL IT DREAM KILLER, HE CALLS IT REALITY. I FIND MYSELF ALWAYS LOOKING TOWARD THE IMPOSSIBLE, HE FINDS HIMSELF SAYING THAT IS NOT POSSIBLE AND I DO UNDERSTAND WHERE HE IS COMING FROM, BUT AS I TELL HIM, BABY THAT CAN BE DISCOURAGING. WE HAVE FINALLY COME TO A MIDDLE GROUND. SO YES WOMEN BE THAT NURTURING , SUPPORTIVE WOMAN, BUT MEN DON’T FORGET WE NEED IT TO. LIKE OBAMA….YES WE CAN….
KEEPING IT REAL…MS. NAY
Wow, did you lay it down or what! Again, I have no man nor am I dating, but if and when I do, I will remember to cheer for him. Our men get further along with our support and encouragment. I have a friend that makes emasculating her man a habit, and she often gets mad at me for telling her to tone it down a bit… Perhaps I should read this to her.
I could not agree with you more! There’s nothing like support and reinforcement in life or daily struggles from the person that’s closest to you and if you can’t be that to your man, it’s a problem and if you don’t get it, that’s a problem as well.
I am new to your page….but I must say, I have yet to read one of your blogs that I disagreed with!My mother always set a great example on how to play our position as women in a household with a worthy man! This being done with my step father, prior she set a great example on being an independent single mom, that did not need a man! The point I’m getting too, is I have been back in the dating field after a recent divorce and I have been labeled a “domestic goddess”, yet its my miss independent that attracts them! So when I’m sharing my “traditional views”, men are shocked to hear this come from a women like me! Our job as women is to support the man that runs the household! “For every real dawg, there’s that bitch that’s behind him!” Lovin ur thoughts!
Welcome Mojo and thank you so much for sharing your thoughts. Our position as Women is extremely powerful because we have the power of influence. We change the hearts of Men