It never fails! Whenever I’m in the company of women who are long time Relation-shippers, the conversation always re-directs to weight or sex. Not sex the way I spin it, more like Government sex. Government sex is sex that is issued out like a welfare check; once per month. While your time and energy is placed on making your hair-do last till your next appointment, shopping for clothes or stuff you don’t need and catching up with your girlfriends; a man who loves YOU and worships the ground YOU walk on patiently waits for his Government issue.
We take on the attitude and belief our Nani is priceless. It is when we are deciding who we want to share it with, but once you choose and commit, the Nani comes off the shelf. To hold back is to have given it away under false pretense! If my memory serves me right, the Nani is at her best with its counterpart: the penis. I’ve played with toys before but nothing and I mean ab-so-lute-ly nothing takes the place of a man’s body on top of you guiding and directing his own penis until you strain your vocal chords. My point?….There is just as much power in the penis as is the Nani so show some respect and appreciation. You can start by;
– Waking up with him before he goes to work and giving him full access. His penis is already wide awake so it’s an effortless gesture.
-Thank him for knowing how to use his penis to make your body tremble and shake uncontrollably.
-Right when his is leaving for work, give him two kisses. One on the lips and one on his…you know what’s up.
Be grateful he can rise up just by watching you move around the house. That’s a compliment to your sexy. Reward him but realize you are the one getting the prize.
Ladies do you respect and appreciate your prize? Fella’s I want to hear from you too. I wanna know if you feel your Trophy is being appreciated! I’m listening…Holla at ya Gyrl !
Godspeed….Latoya
I think if my lady is not responding or is not in the mood then its my fault — regardless of how busy we each are we must take time to keep falling in love/lust with each other.
At the moment all i have are words as i did not do that with my former wife — one of the reasons she IS former, and i have yet to spend the time i/we need to really get to know each other with my current (and future) lady.
To me sex is not a game — its not something held or given as a duty — it should be spontaneous loving giving sharing and above full of lust, the lust that comes at the beginning of a relationship.
I dont think its easy BUT if you want to keep your partner then you must not allow yourself to take her (or him) for granted — find the reasons you got together in the first place and recall them —- romance and passion are missing from so many lives.
I dont want to make the same mistakes and i am always making sure my lady knows how i feel and that i do not take her for granted — that i will do all in my power to keep falling for her and trying to keep her falling for me.
Romance does not start in the bedroom — it may end there but its much much more than mere sex — flowers a grateful kiss a hug helping with the chores talking to her surprising her with a night out — even if its a walk and a take away meal —- anything to break the routine and show you care for HER not the sex that may come.
Best wishes
Well first appreciate is a big word, and one must truley define it before one can use, but you made it very clear.It’s good to see that there is someone who honors and worships the penis.
Expensive Taste,
Appreciate is simply to be grateful. As Women, most of us tend to forget that as much as he is loving that Nani, we should remember to reciprocate.
Latoya
wordsRmylife,
I respect your comment, but however my experience with african-american women has not prove them to be very appreiative of the penis, so what do you recommend a qualified brother like me should do…….?
There is something common about the type of women you choose. You have to figure out what that is.
If you are often “relationshipping” with women who don’t appreciate all of you, then; you are pairing yourself with selfish women all the time OR you are not appreciating her in the bedroom.
I don’t doubt that you are qualified, but in order to get to the root of the problem you have to examine all angles, including yourself.
wordsRmylife,
what’s been common is that they all have been lovely fine african-american women, try to stay true to my people,
wordsRmylife,
but, if my people don’t appreciate what I’m working with then that raises questions. I have always appreciated them and every part of them, ain’t nothing like a sista with BRAINS, BEAUTY, AND BOOTY ! Where are the real sistas, I don’t want to cross over just to be appreciated and be considered a “sell-out”
I wouldn’t worry about being a “sell out”. You can’t control where your heart leads you. Now,…having said that: there is a difference between broadening your scope and ousting one group of women for another. If you are broadening your scope, so be it. I feel sorry for the true Women who didn’t have the opportunity to change your mind. But face it, when you leave the covenant, you may find BRAINS and BEAUTY, but NOT the BOOTY.
I guess 2 out of 3 ain’t too bad.
Another side of this is, while she’s dishing out the Nani like its a monthly event, she expects the man to still want, desire and compliment her. She keeps the commitments to her girls, hair appts. etc but the man who should take precedence is left begging or brokering deals for some love. The moment he doesn’t compliment, come home on time or get excited when he sees her exiting the shower she’ll lose it, accuse him of cheating or not being interested. In actuality he’s given her a bit of her own medicine she just can’t handle it. Women need to make their partners a priority, its hell getting a man back when somebody else shows them the love and attention you didn’t.