At conception we are given one of the greatest gifts; a Heart. This Heart is given “brand new” and works for us immediately. Before we experience our first breath of life, your heart has already begun its task.
To say you have kept something close to your heart means you have guarded it as your own and made it part of you. To love someone with all of your heart is to say you trust that person with the one thing which makes you vulnerable. Your heart is the core of who you are. How is it that an instrument so important often gets placed in the wrong hands?
At birth our parents and caretakers are assigned as Keepers of our heart then at some point we are given authority; authority to keep our own Heart until we place it in the hands of someone. It is not realized how difficult this is until our heart is misplaced through many hands. The end result is: we become too restrictive or too careless.
In restriction, we are so untrusting it’s nearly impossible to discern placement. The fear of another broken heart grips us so strong that we refuse to let it go. In carelessness we are so desperate for a Keeper that we hand-over our heart to almost anyone. Knowingly, we place our heart into undeserving hands. Sometimes forcing it in hands of men who want nothing to do with it! Even in marriage you may discover that you gave the wrong person charge over your Heart. The Keeper of your Heart is your breast plate and shield. He recognizes your heart is fragile and does not seek to break it. He undoubtedly loves you and guards your heart with a passion. It’s his promise to you.
How are we directed or redirected to the right Keeper? It starts with you. This is one of the few areas you have total control over so use it wisely!
- Recognize the mistakes you make repeatedly in your Relationships. They are usually a reflection of your own fears and weakness and we tend to attach ourselves to men we think can fix or soothe them. The fix is only temporary and when the relationship ends you still have the same wound only now it’s’ bigger.
- Treat your own heart the way you expect it to be treated. That means falling in love with you first, but not in an arrogant sense. Take the time to learn you with the same excitement you would apply to learning about a new lover.
- Clean House: rid your heart of that old debris and trash that made it hard and heavy. Make it joyful again so that you attract like-kind.
Now your heart is ready to be released without any restrictions to the right Keeper. Have you been directed or re-directed to the right Keeper? I’m listening….Holla at ya Gyrl !
This is true. I am running into this problem all the time actually. I have been running into women that have this problem. It seems like they like to be treated badly so they can complain to their ‘girls’ about it. I also believe that some are simply scared to be happy again because their thinking is that the happiness is going to turn into anguish.
Another thing is there are more ‘bad’ men out there than good. When a woman gets a man that knows how to treat her, care for her, listen and do what she needs and asks from him, he’s ‘soft’ or ‘too good to be true’ in their eyes and they either try to run over him (like the previous men in her life did her) or leave him alone.
I completely agree with everything that you stated. Women and men need to read that and follow those steps and maybe we could get back to the days when there were families who actually loved each other and not 51% divorce rates with broken homes.