Archive for November, 2008

Have You Experienced The “G”?

Monday, November 24th, 2008

toyapnk.JPGI want to spend a few topics focusing on the different types of Orgasms a woman can have. We all know about the most common ones like vaginal and clitoral. Although any type of Orgasm a woman is able to experience without faking is good, I want to get out of “regular” and delve into Intense and extraordinary. This is an area where Men rule because Men are guaranteed to ejaculate with EVERY sexual experience they have, bottom line. With Women it’s not always that easy so we get a broader spectrum of alternatives and the Men in our lives have the exclusive opportunity to gift us with an orgasm. This week I have chosen to talk about the “G”.

Much debate still continues over whether the G-spot exists. At this point in my life I’m convinced that Women who feel the G-spot is a myth has never experienced an orgasm from the G, and Men who agree the G-spot is a myth have no clue how to find it. Patience is a Virtue when locating the G, because if you have never been there it’s likely you won’t find it if you give up too quickly. The worst thing you can do is become so fixated on trying to find your woman’s G-spot that your sexual experience with her becomes sterile and rigid as opposed to a sensual journey.

A G-spot orgasm is more intense and heightened than a vaginal one. You will know when you hit your woman’s G-spot because she will release a sound unlike any you have ever heard and her back will arch so high even you will be amazed! Now let’s find it.

Women can also locate their own G-spot, but for the purpose of clarity, I’m writing this with the intention of a couple doing this together. First, slowly insert your finger (s) inside the Nani crooking it forward in a “come here” motion until you are up to the second knuckle. The texture of her vagina should feel slightly bumpy or ridged. That’s when you know you have entered the “G”. The other tell tale sign is that is that her breathing and movement is noticeably heavier.

She won’t orgasm immediately but she will lose ALL control of her body. The intensity of her orgasm depends on the pressure you give to get her there. It varies. This is something you will have to experiment with. If her G-spot is swollen, she is already fully aroused and the blood has rushed to that area. She is on the brink of orgasm and your “come here” motion should start at least at medium to heavy pressure. That’s it! All you have to remember is “come here”.

Ladies have you experienced the “G”? Fella’s can you stimulate the “G” and give your woman one of the most incredible orgasms ever?…I’m listening…Holla at ya Gyrl !

Can I Tell You What I Need?

Sunday, November 16th, 2008

toyapnk.JPGWomen are the most complex creatures God created. I imagine that when God realized Adam needed a help meet (Gen 2:18 KJV) even He may have rested his thumb and index finger on his chin, shook his head side to side, looked at all his holy materials and thought, “Where do I start?”

From Adams’ rib God created the only Helper and supporter you will ever need on this Earth. How else would we be able to fight you, love you, feed you, nurture you, smile for you (even when you don’t deserve one), and live with stretch marks for you?

When we truly love you, we are a damn good help meet. We know your needs whether you verbally express them or not, but….what we are not so good at is expressing what we need from you. In that aspect, we operate more on an emotional level than a practical one. Instead of just saying, “I need you to pay more attention to me,” we hope that you read our minds, our body language, heed our subtle sometimes enormous hints, or notice anything that will make you ask, “what’s wrong?”. Then….when you comply and ask the magic question, we reply with a pathetic, “nothing.” Which 99.9% of the time ALWAYS means it’s….. something!

Can I speak for myself and maybe a few other women and tell you what we need? What I need?

I need you to hug me first, hold me tight for no reason at all, tell me I’m beautiful, kiss me the way you used to, talk to me, trust me with your fears, surprise me with a gift, call me in the middle of the day and tell me how much you miss me, play with me, laugh with me, make love to me passionately, listen to me, be interested in me, & be my protector.

Me Me Me!…I know it may sound a little Me “ish”, but whether you choose to acknowledge it or not, this is what we need from you & likely won’t tell you.

Are we asking too much?…I’m listening, now Holla at ya Gyrl !

Godspeed
~Latoya~

Are These 5 Words Ruining Your Chances of Finding a Good Man?

Sunday, November 9th, 2008

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1. I
2. DON’T
3. NEED
4. A
5. MAN

From my teens to early twenties I used to be part of the “I don’t need a man!” club. Sista’s who appeared successful, confident and having it all seemed to be singing the same song. I, being a young impressionable woman, trying to paint my own path, thought I had to join in the chorus to be respected by men.

Many of us were lead to believe a woman’s Independence is synonymous with being void of a man and what he brings to the table. Although the feminist movement is long gone, its basic beliefs are ever existent. We are supposed to be smarter, competitive, bring home bigger salaries and better groceries…oh and my favorite…we don’t even need men to have children anymore! We can now go to Sperm R Us and buy as much as we want eliminating the hassle of having SEX with a man!!! How did we ever get caught in this web of ideology? I was born into it, so even I don’t know!

But what I do know is a Man’s inherent nature. He was created to lead, take charge, supply, and protect. He is the hunter vying for position in your life. He wants to be your warrior and is eager to thrust himself into battle against beast, just for you; and in five words, you’ve stripped away his purpose.

Let’s just stop a moment and let that sit…In five words, you’ve stripped away His purpose; His God given right to care for you, protect you, bring food to you, lift you above his shoulders, above himself.

Most women who scream “I don’t need a man” the loudest are the very ones trying to figure out what went wrong relationship after relationship…No surprise to me.

Whew!!! I bet you didn’t even realize you were doing all that. You thought you were showing him what a good job you’ve done on your own and now all you need from him is Love…

Today, I’m in the “I Need, Love, and Appreciate a Man” club and I’m one member strong thus far. Anyone else joining?

Godspeed
~Latoya~