I saw a movie a couple of weeks ago and it was a pretty good movie, but something was missing. I couldn’t figure out what it was but I knew, instinctively, I would enjoy this movie even more if it wasn’t void of …something.
Then it hit me at the ending …there was no music. No symphony leading me to the next scene and no suspense chord to set the tone. It made me realize the importance of music in a movie and how a scenes pace is set with sound and tone.
I link this analogy with Sex and sound. I’m very expressive in the bedroom especially with sound. Like a movie paced by it’s music, it takes no effort to figure out what stage of arousal I’m in and the amount of pleasure I’m experiencing. Vocal expression, sex-talk, and pace of breath are as much of the experience as is intercourse. But for vocal expression to be truly appreciated, it has to be natural and valid. Trying to squeal louder than Jenna Jameson or Heather Hunter before your man has even inserted is phony and fraudulent. Your man knows the difference between an exaggerated sound and a real one, so please don’t insult his intelligence.
To be successful in giving your man a superlative mind phuc, you have to first establish your level of comfort and willingness to surrender your reservations to all those erogenous zones your man is inciting. If you’re saying in your head, “I like that”, let those words whisper from your lips into his ear and he will continue with an enthusiastic boost. Throw away all discomfort and apprehension. Give your self permission to moan, exhale, encourage, and boldly tell him;
“I want you to hurt the…”
Whew!….you know what I mean…What was I talking about? Oh yeah, releasing your melodic, harmonious, pleasure sounds so that your love making isn’t void of ANYTHING!
Is Vocal Expression important to you? I’m listening….Holla at ya Gyrl !
Godspeed
~Latoya~
Tags: breathing, expression, heather hunter, jenna jameson, Sex, sound, vocal
I was getting hot and heated just reading, but is so true!!!! When the women tells how it feels and “right there”, keeps a brotha working and working to make sure he is laying it right!!!
I must read on, may get more tips, to keep it right!!!
Whisper, moan, grunt, nails into your partner, it all has the same effect. The “symphony” of nioses are always wlecome because it serves two purposes: 1- added arousal and 2-concentration. I can say this because over the years I have learned that WE MEN are selfish in that department. It somewhat transfers ownership of his partner’s self esteem from “her to him”, and in order to keep her to himself, he warrants the whisper, pushes for that moan or grunt, digs deeper just to see if she’ll sink her nails into his back. All of this requires most of his concentration, because he wnats her to know that he is a “good dancer” and can handle his own on the dancefloor, bed, chair, kitchen, park, car, or wherever.
That’s what I’m talking about. Tell him how you want it because when you do we’ll try and TEARTHATAZZUP!!! Alot of women make that mistake of not saying anything.
Hallelujah!! I got some Men folk talking. Thank you all for the honesty and being bold enough to document your opinions.
Men can be silent in the bedroom as well which can cause women to be uncomfortable bringing the noise. Most Women will not be honest with what I’m about to say, but we LOVE to be controlled in the bedroom. It only works though if the Captain of the ship is fully handling his duties. The level of our participation is determined by your guidance. For example;
If a Woman is not “going deep” long enough for you or giving the energy down there you want, make some noise (in a manly way)for her and let her know how happy Daddy is. You will see immediate improvement.
shoot Vocal expression is importand FOR me too…
Yeah GeLi,
This one I wrote was for us (women) but you are so right. We need some incentive too to keep doing the damn thing! Goes both ways…sometimes you have to train your man and ask him “How does this feel” “Do you like that?” and when he answers give a moan and do it a little better. If he is paying attention, he will realize that when he makes a little noise it excites you as well!
~Latoya~
Latoya
that is sooo true! b/c my man doesnt make any noise but loves it when I do, itsjust not fair, b/c I wanna know that i can make you happy too, so make some noise boys and let us know how deep you like it or how intense you need it, cause I am dang tired of guessing when that orgasm is coming or if by changing positions I lost you somewhere…be more vocal and maybe we will be more vocal, cause sometimes I feel like I am in a duet with a partner with larengitis(sp?) and all focus is on me when I only know my part, not the whole song…lol